There are tons of parents out there who truly believe that they have the best child ever! They brag to their friends about their child’s achievements, they tell other family members all about the love their child has for them, and they lie to themselves so that they can continue to turn a blind eye to the devilish ways of their own children. This has to stop.
It’s time to fess up to the things that our children do that are completely unacceptable so that we can begin the process of putting them back in their place.
My child can do no wrong
If you believe that your child is perfect, then you are one of the parents walking around with your head in the sand. No person is perfect, let alone a child who is still learning about themselves, their emotions, and the world around them. Children consistently test the waters and when they are not held accountable for the wrong that they do, they continue living a life believing that they have the authority to do whatever they want…no matter the consequence.
We cannot allow our children to go on thinking that they can say anything they want, do anything they want, or react any way that they should so choose. Without guiding our children and teaching them the importance of accountability and responsibility, we are only failing them that much more.
According to familydoctor.org, there are a number of things that might cause a child to behave badly. “Biological reasons like overtired or hungry, as well as emotional reasons like not being able to cope with or describe their feelings are the major reasons most children act out.”
Based on the experts and pediatricians who deal with children and their biological and emotional states, it is suggested that parents who are faced with children who are acting out should do their best to meet their children where they are. This does not mean that you ignore your child when they have a tantrum. Ignoring a child only encourages the child to act out further so that they can get your attention. It also doesn’t mean that you give in to your child’s demands. Remember, you are the parent and you make the rules.
But I don’t know how to make my child behave
There is nothing wrong with admitting that you can’t control your child. The first step is to admit that you have a problem…the rest will come easy. According to Good Therapy, there are four secrets to improving your child’s behavior. First, be sure to praise your child anytime you see that they have done something good. Showing your appreciation for their good behavior is a start in letting them know what is acceptable and what is not.
Second, be sure to use consistent discipline techniques. It’s important to teach your child that they are going to be held accountable for their actions. The reality is that the world will teach this to them if you don’t. Third, never fail to communicate with your child at all times. If your child does something that you are not happy with then you have to tell them why. Explain to your child why their actions are not acceptable so that they can learn from the experience.
Finally, be sure to keep your child on a structured regiment. Patterns are key for children because they learn consistency and follow-through. When a child has a certain regiment that is to be followed, they will soon make the judgment themselves on whether they will fall from the regiment or not. When they do decide to fall from the regiment that you have provided, it will be up to you to set them straight on the importance of remaining true to the structure you’ve provided.
Communication is key, but follow-through is even more important when you are working on improving your child’s behavior. You have the power to dictate the type of child that you will raise in this life and you have the ability to assist with your child becoming their best selves.
Many parents tend to ignore the work that goes into helping their children to be disciplined because they feel it’s just not worth the struggle. This is where they are wrong. If you fail to deal with improving your child’s behavior now, you will surely see how it will manifest into their becoming an adult who thinks the world owes them something. Invest the time now so that you can help your child reap the positive benefits later.