There has been a tremendous burden placed on the shoulders of women who also happen to be mothers. These women are expected to maintain and excel at their careers, be an effective partner to their husbands, and manage the entire household and household budget—all while wearing makeup and keeping her body in the best of shape.
If it’s true that Super Man doesn’t really exist, then why would we believe that there could ever be a Super Mom? It’s true, women are powerful forces to be reckoned with, but that doesn’t mean that she’s a robot who can withstand a million responsibilities, all while smiling and being gracious to everyone she encounters. It’s time to stop the madness, mom!
As mothers, we often accept the role of being a super mom without even thinking about it. We just do it because we feel we are the only people who are capable of ensuring that all of the deeds can get done without any problems. The only issue is that we are not as capable as we think.
We bleed, we have our fears, we cry (in secret), we love, we hate, and we do everything else under the sun that proves we are only human. We make mistakes and we make bad decisions all the time, just like everyone else. The only difference is that when we make mistakes or bad decisions, we often beat ourselves up for it. As a matter of fact, we will even beat ourselves up over the bad decisions and mistakes of others in our family.
When our children do things that fall outside of what we have taught them, we lose it internally. When our husbands disappoint or hurt us, we somehow find a way to blame ourselves. We do this because we honestly believe that we have the ability to handle anything, and when this proves to be false, we can’t handle it. Face it, mom…YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!
We are all guilty of this self-defeating understanding about ourselves. We just need to take the time to reverse this line of thinking so that we don’t fall so hard when things don’t go our way. We can’t crumble when our family goes south, rather than north (if you get my meaning). We also can’t blame ourselves for the actions of others in our family. Our children will grow up to have their own mind and their own understanding of this world. We can’t change that.
Our husbands will continue to be from Mars…we can’t change that either. The only thing we can change is our understanding of who we really are, what we represent, and how we feel about ourselves. As a mother, one can only be guilty of loving everyone else in her family before she loves herself. This explains why she gains weight, while everyone else remains fit, and why she gets ill—yet still fights to ensure that everyone else remains healthy.
Maybe that’s why they call us Super Mom. Not because we can do it all…but because we are willing to take it all, just so that our loved ones won’t have to.