It would be a wonderful thing to say that all parents are responsible, caring, and dedicated to their children. It would also be nice to say that most parents serve as the best examples for their children.
Unfortunately, this is not always the case in either scenario. There are some parents out there that are the worst examples for their children, and they refuse to take accountability for this fact. Well, it is time for parents to be called out for their inability to teach their children what it takes to be a productive citizen, let alone a good person.
There is a report circulating about one mother who decided to punish her child by leaving him in her hot car while she went on about her business. The child was later rescued, and the mother was arrested, but not before she admitted that she wanted to teach her child a lesson.
She almost killed her child, given the fact that the weather was extremely hot and humid. Despite her child’s cries, she continued to claim she did the right thing. This is only one example of a mother who apparently did not receive the best upbringing from her own mother. She had no clue that she endangered her child, and to be honest, she seemingly did not care. When her child grows up to have his own children, the likelihood of his repeating her bad behavior in child rearing is almost certain.
According to the American Sociological Review’s section on Family Instability and Child Well-Being, “negative child outcomes may be associated because of common casual factors such as parent’s antecedent behaviors and attributes.” It goes without saying that the worst example a child has in their life just might be that of their own parents.
When children misbehave in school, they are often punished and sent home. This rarely teaches the child how to handle the problem that they created. To add insult to injury, sending the child home to a parent who fails to explain why certain behaviors are unacceptable can only exacerbate the situation.
Often times, a parent only reiterates negative comments or attitudes when their child fails to do something that they want or expect. When the parent continues to spew negative commentary to the child, they are creating a mantra that will continually be repeated by the child in their mind. This is how negative attitudes continue to manifest into negative actions by a child.
If a parent wants to see the best in their child, they should first take a look at how they are contributing to this result. Are they taking the time to communicate to their child why certain behaviors are inappropriate? Are they guiding their child on the steps that it takes to make wise choices on a day-to-day basis?
Finally, are they telling their children how much they love them and how much they expect the best out of them? If not, one would have to wonder what messages are being provided instead.
To have the best child, every parent must be the best that they can be. It is imperative to show children what it takes to be honorable, loving, and empathetic…especially if this is the attitude a parent expects to manifest in their child. It isn’t always easy to put your best foot forward, but it’s worth the effort.