Smith, 69, is a home designer and restaurateur who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2014. She has been married to her husband, Dan Gasby, 64, since 1992 and he has been well supported by the prosperity of Smith’s business ventures over the years.
Recently, Gasby shared his personal story of living with B. Smith while she struggles with Alzheimer’s’ with The Washington Post.
His story is not unusual and it did not surprise anyone to see that he had a rough time tending to all of the former star’s needs. The thing that did set social media on fire was his admittance to moving his girlfriend into their home for companionship.
“I love my wife, but I can’t let her take away my life!” Gasby boldly wrote on his wife’s Facebook account. Needless to say, both Facebook and The Washington Post saw their fair share of angry people who were appalled at Gasby and his decision to move another woman into their home while his wife suffered from a disease.
The subject of whether or not a spouse should date while still married to their partner, especially if their partner is suffering from a disease, is an issue that isn’t easily solved. It is wrought with emotion on both sides of the fence and it can’t be contained with mere logic and sensibility.
‘til death do us part
Most of the angry comments from individuals stated that Gasby should be ashamed of dating while his wife suffers. They also comment on his decision to move his girlfriend into the home of the couple, right under his wife’s nose. It is believed that he took full advantage of the fact that B. Smith was not in her right mind when he moved his girlfriend into their home and assisted in the establishment of a female bond between the two women.
B. Smith is under the impression that the woman is her friend and is in the home to serve as an assistant to her in some way. One can only ponder as to whether Gasby was a true con artist for fooling his wife into believing that his girlfriend was truly a friend of hers. Gasby has attempted to explain himself on multiple occasions to no avail. Women, in particular, have seemingly taken this personal and are in no way bowing down to his desire to be understood. Gasby has been called everything from ‘selfish’ to an ‘ass,’ and it doesn’t stop there.
“You don’t bring your mistress in the house where your WIFE lives. She’s not dead,” one social media user wrote on Facebook. “This is really selfish. There are plenty of women who have taken care of their husbands as they have become paralyzed, had a stroke, had Alzheimer’s, and never was it cool for them to take a man and move him into their home so they could be happy with the rest of their lives,” stated another social media user.
The argument on whether a man has the right to decide the fate of his future if his wife suffers with an inability to be an equal partner is a very real one that isn’t easily solved. On the one hand, you have a human being who has a dire need for companionship and assistance with their current spouse. On the other hand, however, you have a person who feels they have the right to be happy regardless of their spouse’s situation.
In the end, you must wonder if the decision of what’s right and wrong falls into the hand of the person making that decision, rather than the observers. It’s just too bad that the person suffering has to feel the kick of such a decision in the end.