Today is Christmas and many people are finding that they are anything but full of joy and great cheer. We tend to forget those who don’t necessarily have a family to justify a lavish holiday dinner, holiday decorations, or participation in holiday festivities.
Unfortunately, the holidays often lead many into a depression that can be hard to fight. If you are alone this holiday, or prone to feel depressed around the holidays, fret not for we have the solution that just might make you feel the joy in your heart, once again.
- Take the time to acknowledge how you feel.
When we feel sad or lonely, we often attempt to push these emotions aside and ignore their impact. Failing to acknowledge feelings of sadness won’t make them go away. Instead, by attempting to ignore our feelings, we only exacerbate the unwanted emotion which heightens the feelings of depression.
Do not be afraid to accept the fact that you are not happy and that you may feel a sense of isolation. Say to yourself “I’m not happy and I feel lonely” so that you can address these emotions head on without attempting to pretend that they don’t exist.
- Beware of televised programming.
The holidays often bring forth a barrage of holiday programs that can truly depress the best of us if we are already feeling the holiday blues. Television and social media tend to push the idea of what the holidays are supposed to both look and feel like.
Programming, when done effectively, pushes the idea that we are to be surrounded by family and friends, laughing and sharing, while we celebrate in traditional means. This doesn’t always work for everyone, especially if you are not a traditional type of person. Are you typically anti-social? If so, you probably won’t change that fact about you just because it’s the holidays. Are you a non-drinker?
Then you will probably find yourself uncomfortable when you are being forced to “drink up” and celebrate with others. When you watch television and take in their notion of what is the ‘proper’ way to enjoy the holidays, you will find yourself questioning whether or not you fall in line with what constitutes as normal and fun.
Don’t do this to yourself. Don’t allow the media to dictate how your holiday is supposed to look or feel.
- Create your own reality
Now is the time to create your own version of what your holiday should look like. Figure out what you would like to do and just do it. Do you want to travel? Now is the time to go. Are you interested in trying out a new recipe? Go for it! Make the holidays a time for you to discover things about yourself that you didn’t know.
If you create your own definition of what the holidays should look and feel like, then you will find yourself much happier. It is so often the case that we merely accept societies version of what we should do on certain holidays. Rather than accept what you have been told to do, create your own holiday magic.
There is no better time than now to discover that the holidays don’t have to be so blue for you. Believe it or not, the holidays can be fun…even if it means that you have to create your own magic.