Sil Mazzini threw a birthday party for her 6-year-old son, only to have none of the invitees show up. She was devastated by the no-shows and embarrassed for her son.
The disdain that Mazzini felt burned within her being so fiercely she took a photo of her son sitting in front of 28 plates of deserted pizza and posted it on Facebook.
Needless to say, the post went viral, and now she’s working double overtime to escape the attention both she and her son are currently experiencing.
How far is too far when protecting your child’s honor?
When Mazzini posted the photo of her child sitting alone in front of 28 plates of pizza, she no doubted did so because of her anger at those parents who abandoned her son on his day of celebration.
Mazzini admitted that her son did not seem to mind — he was so busy being a 6-year-old boy who was excited about the video games that surrounded him. The problem was that Mazzini could not handle the way she felt her son was being treated.
When our children are hurt by others, it makes sense that we stand up for them. When our children feel pain, it also makes sense that we do all that we can to erase that pain. The only problem is we do these things for the sake of our children, not thinking about the consequences that might follow.
Pain is inevitable and so is life
Pain is a part of life and our children are going to feel it sooner or later. When people hurt our children, we should step in and do all that we can to protect their feelings. However, we can only do so much.
Mazzini did not post the photo to protect her child…she did it to protect her ego. She personally invited everyone to come to her son’s birthday party, and when they failed to show, she was offended. She posted the picture to shame those who would see it—not thinking about how his friends might react to him once he got to school the next day. Sometimes in our effort as parents to protect our children, we actually make situations much worse than they have to be.
It is not a bad thing to allow life to take its course, sometimes. When our children’s feelings are hurt by their friends, all we can do is be there to hold them through the pain. We can’t act on the situation because we will only take away our children’s ability to handle these types of situations on their own. Stand back, despite the desire to stand up, and allow your child the room they need to grow. Even if pain is part of the growing process.