When it comes to love and marriage one thing is for sure—there are NO guarantees. This being the case, it should come as no surprise that stepfamilies are becoming the new norm whereas biologically formed families of original mothers and fathers with their children is slowly becoming extinct.
We are now a nation in which the majority of families are divorced, according to The Stepfamily Foundation. Most go on to remarry or form “living together” relationships that often involve children that have no say in the matter. The numbers are in and they are staggering:
According to the US Bureau of Census:
- 1300 new stepfamilies are forming each day
- Over 50% of US families are remarried or re-coupled
- 75% remarry
- 50% of the 60 million children under the age of 13 are currently living with one biological parent and that parent’s current partner
Children often become new victims of parental separation, even when we do our best to ensure they feel loved and nurtured. So what do you do now that you have found that great guy and you decide to remarry or have a “live together without marriage” arrangement?
How can you be sure that your children will embrace the new life? You can’t, that’s the point. All you can do is make sure you keep your child’s needs in mind when taking steps that will involve them, as well.
Mom and Child: Two Separate Needs
Women often look for love and partnership when identifying a great mate. This is completely normal and understandable. However, when it comes to children, they are in need of a bit more and will require such to grow healthy; physically, mentally and emotionally.
Children tend to need love, guidance and discipline in order to ensure that they become responsible adults that contribute to society. Can you actually answer the question of whether or not you trust your new partner to provide these essential duties for your children? Are you merely in a relationship that makes you feel great but only serves half of your child’s needs? These are the questions to ask prior to making commitments that you might regret later.
All in all, children require love and the committed involvement of the adults in their lives. When you leave one relationship for another, remember that you have more to think of than just your own needs. Keep in mind the needs of your child and then discover your new mate’s ability to satisfy those needs for you both. Keeping these things in mind just might make your “happily ever after” your reality, after all.