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Why I Won’t Take My Kid To Gay Pride

I have always supported the gay community. As a Christian conservative, I have repeatedly encountered like-minded people that balk at my acceptance of homosexuality.

If being gay is a sin, that’s between them and God. It has nothing to do with me, just like people that succumb to infidelity, lying, greed, and divorce have no impact on my life. It’s not my place to judge.

In regards to true “Ronald Reagan Republicanism,” I’m all about less government in our lives. The government should have no say in what people do in the bedroom or who they get married to. Straight people get married to crappy people all the time and nobody seems to have a problem with that. If my male neighbors who are blissfully in love want to get tax write-offs because they’ve been living together for five years; let them.

Though I recognize this won’t be wildly popular amongst my conservative readers, the truth is, I have actually supported the gay community for quite some time. Before I was particularly religious, my stance on homosexuality and gay marriage is pretty much what it is now: so long as you have found peace with yourself and you aren’t hurting anyone else, I fully support you.

Every year, I have supported and embraced the gay community by going to Gay Pride. I can’t remember a year I haven’t attended. But I can’t take my son and that makes me sad.

I can’t take my son because Pride festival always ends up being overtly sexual and crude. Inevitably, I always go into it with good spirits and leave feeling disgruntled at how vulgar and demoralizing it can be. Gay pride can be beautifully symbolic and a display of the fortitude of the human spirit, rising up in the face of adversity. The energy is a force to be reckoned with and you feel a true sense of what human strength and fortitude are capable of.

But you can also feel dirty. The gay community rarely is shy about being true to themselves, which is beautiful in theory but kind of gross in practice. On countless occasions, I have witnessed things I simply have no desire to see and CERTAINLY can’t expose my son to. And that frustrates me because I think the people that have sacrificed so much in the plight of acceptance and respect have sacrificed too much to turn this particular event into a sex-show.

If the gay community wants to be taken seriously and have others accept their rights to marriage and adoption than (perhaps) leave the bedroom stuff at home?

Look, I get it. Gay Pride isn’t for straight people. They aren’t putting on a festival to make straight people and their kids feel more comfortable. It isn’t about us.

But, when you are fighting for respect and rights, it’s kind of ridiculous to bring sex into the equation. You can’t simultaneously demand that the rest of society not care about what you are doing in the bedroom, then bring it to the forefront of one of the biggest holidays recognizing gay rights. I don’t want to see ANYONE doing vulgar acts of sexuality – straight or gay. You are in public. You are at an event to celebrate all you have accomplished and everything your community had fought for. You have tirelessly fought for people to take you seriously; not judge you by what you do under the covers but in the community. ACT LIKE IT.

My son will be raised to learn to love and accept ALL human beings. He will learn that it is not our right to cast judgment, as we are not absolved of sin ourselves. He will learn that there are amazing gays and lesbians, as they are people just trying to carve out happy lives where they feel safe and loved. Not unlike the rest of us.

Unfortunately, until the gay community decides that a public event like Gay Pride probably shouldn’t involve overtly sexual and indecent acts, my son nor I won’t be able to attend. While the gay community owes my family nor anyone else’s family any leeway, I DO believe it would benefit everyone to make these festivals more kid-friendly.

After all, our youth is the future. It may be noteworthy and beneficial to stop stigmatizing homosexuality as strictly a sexual thing. If you don’t make it about sex, it won’t be. But if you do… don’t be upset when outsiders do, as well.

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21 comments

  1. The Pride is the pride of Lucifer. it is Satanic and the Bible warns those who would sanction sin.

    Hebrews 10
    26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

    27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.

    28 He that despised Moses’ law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:

    29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?

    30 For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people.

    31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.

  2. I can’t support any sin because it will send them to hell.
    It’s not love to promote it or say it’s ok.
    Love says repent and turn away from sin!
    God loves gays too but they have to reject that sinful lifestyle just as I have to turn away from the sins that I have permitted in my life.
    To say you support that as a Christian is totally rejecting what the word of God says.
    You’re being deceived.
    Do not be deceived, God is not mocked.

  3. What do you do with 1corinthians 5? How do you get past that responsibly?

    • I normally enjoy the writings on this website. Most profound principles are written in scripture as parables. This (how to behave around certain people) is an exception, and you are 100% correct. The statements made in this article of “conservative Christian” is not a biblical based version of Christianity. It might be a secular/communal version of cherry picking principles, but 1 Corinthians 5 very clearly explains why the views in this article incorrectly label, bible-based Christianity.

  4. You’ve been hanging out with the Satanistic Evangelical’s.

  5. I agree with some of what u r saying, but our opinion don’t matter, because
    GOD is the one that is offended by Gay choices, and that does matter. Also when a
    Society supports Gay rights it beings out other anti-society actions.

  6. 1TH 5:22 – Abstain from all appearance of evil
    A true Christian would not attend this event. The Bible tells us to hate the sin and not the sinner. But attending their pagan Anti God events
    Isa big no no

  7. My partner and I have been together and ‘out’ for nearly thirty years. We whole-heartedly agree with the comments above regarding Gay Pride festivities! We no longer attend these events for the same reasons and I feel they are the biggest cause of discrimination and fear of people like us. We are simply hurting ourselves with these overt and reckless displays. It makes me angry and very sad!

  8. as usual, you write a very interesting, thought provoking article and very eloquently too I might add. However, that being said, I too am a conservative Christian who endeavors to hold tightly to my conservative values. I believe we have all been given the freedom of choice (altho it does seem a lot of that is being taken away from the conservative sector of our society). I am very happy to hear you say you cannot take your child to the gay pride activities. It does seem they take great “pride” in ramming their sexuality down our throats. But that brings me to something that really bothers me about your article – WHY would YOU want to attend something that is not suitable for your child? Would you take your mother to a gay pride parade? You are right – as Christians we are not to judge people BUT I think you have neglected our responsibility to judge ACTIONS. And the homosexual lifestyle is a sin. The sin is to be judged. Not the person,. God hates sin but loves the sinner. ( You think YOU will meet opposition with your view point? just wait for the hate mail I will get with this note). Having a ca-sa-ra-sa-ra attitude that says whatever you do in your life is ok as long as it doesn’t hurt me – is a dangerous attitude. We’re supposed to be a beacon – a light in the darkness. Ours is not an easy stand. But if you see your brother (or sister) in sin you are to speak up – NO – you can’t tell them what they should or should not be doing but you are to point out the sin… Perhaps you can’t get on a platform and denounce homosexual activity (and I doubt you would cause you don’t see it as wrong – you simply want them to be more discreet and not flaunt it in the streets) – surely no one would even listen but to attend their activities year after year in your “support” of their rights is serving no purpose but to give them more latitude – Our rights as conservative Christians is slowly – no, make that quickly being eroded. And I believe it’s people who will not take a stand – those who straddle the fence who are making good, decent Christian values a thing of the past. The lines are getting very blurred – there is no CLEAR definition of right and wrong anymore…. hmmm – do you remember in the Bible where it talks about in the end times right will seem wrong and wrong will seem right? Look around – and while you’re looking – realize that there are very few of us who will stand up and call a sin a sin. It’s a difficult stand – but a necessary one. Before I became a Christian I believed the same as you – about homosexuality and also about abortion… as long as you don’t bother me I’m ok with whatever you do in your life. Now – I don’t go knocking on peoples doors and tell them they’re living in sin – I don’t stand on a street corner but when I read articles like this one – it really ruffles my feathers. We can not in good conscience (or rather I cannot) “support” something I Know to be rude, crude and out right vulgar and totally against God’s plan. Sin is sin and we as Christians need to take a stand for what is good, pure, decent, admirable and Godly. I’d actually question your Christianity had you not said you couldn’t take your child – and when you go to one of their parades and see the things you do – that you left feeling “dirty”. Wake up – that is a big clue that it is not right! AND YOU KNOW IT…. Its not just right for them and wrong for you – It’s just wrong! The spirit inside of you is rising up – listen to what it is saying to you. It is no badge of honor to stand up for the rights of someone who is wrong – We’re not going to change the gay community – actually quite the opposite – the more we speak out the worse they seem to act …. another big clue that its wrong and they take great pleasure in making sure we see and hear all about it. If I do something wrong and someone sees me I’m embarrassed – but they seem to have so much fun laughing at us if we are offended by their rude & crude acts… Our world is becoming darker and darker – PLEASE – shed some light. You have a platform – but Your stand (and other like you) is only dimming the lights even more. You really got me when you said you felt the homosexuals need to make their activities more “KID FRIENDLY” – WHY??? so they can DESENSITIZE our children – so they can grow up in a world who is so totally against decent moral values? So there will no longer know right from wrong? So tomorrows leaders will be even more ungodly and lacking in clean moral character than the leaders we now have in this country???? Usually, I have enjoyed your articles. You write very well and have espoused many of my own views. But to me – when you cross the line and put your stamp of approval on something that is so base – so unnatural and so ungodly then I have to draw my line. I know losing one reader wont make an impact but that’s ok – it’s good for me.

  9. YOU ARE VERY CORRECT, I TO ACCEPT ALL PEOPLE AND HAVE LGBT FRIENDS BUT YOU DON’T SEE HETEROSEXUAL INDIVIDUALS PUT ON THAT DISPLAY, IF THEY DID THEY WOULD BE ARRESTED! IT IS TRULY BECOMING A DOUBLE STANDARD.

  10. Wow! Never have I read exactly what I’m thinking!
    Nice job!
    Thanks

  11. Donna Schiavone

    I agree with your sentiment about the lewdness of pride events, however, the smaller pride celebrations I’ve attended are family-friendly, like Atlantic City, NJ and Atlanta, GA. Both of them,and many others, have a nice festival day kicked off by a PG parade with entertainment and presentations. I guess it’s like Mardi Gras, not all parades are for everyone.

  12. Graeme Bregani

    Replying to Mcclain W. about the Gay Community.

    Who is the Gay Community? The extreme people you see at Gay Pride, bless their hearts, are not all the Gay Community.
    Just like the Christian idiots in Ireland who killed each other are not all the Christian Community. Most Christians, and most gay persons, are not easily seen. You walk down the street and I can’t tell if you’re gay or a murderous religious fool.
    You look normal and mostly you treat others in a considerate way.

    You’re right that public bedroom antics work against the interests of most gays, I think. I might be wrong. I’ve been wrong before.

    Fortunately you and I don’t have to live by my biased thoughts.
    We are free to live our lives.
    And so are they.

    Thanks.

  13. I can understand your empathy with the gay community, but not your support for them. It’s not logical when you say you support the gay community and then not want your son exposed. You may need to re-examine your ideas about the homosexual movement and your commitment to God, it’s not congruent with your trust & faith in God. You may need to investigate what God has said about that lifestyle in his word.

  14. As a Christian conservative myself, I believe your are very confused and mistaken. After reading your article, it seems to me that you are more of a conservative Christian than a Christian conservative. Your article clearly states the very reason why homosexuality should not be accepted behavior. Your position is more permissive than it is tolerant. I suggest as a Christian, maybe you ought to investigate why God deemed such behavior as corruption to the soul, a debasing and degradation of the body, the temple of God Himself. As Christians and God fearing people, we are called to rebuke, correct and inform our brothers and sisters of their errant ways, not support or endorse it. Look, I’m not attacking the homosexual, as God loves them just as much as everyone else, and we need to love them, too. But the behavior of homosexuality needs to be condemned and not be accepted as a moral equivalency to marriage as defined by Jesus. In Matthew 19 Jesus states that marriage, as God intended it, is the union of one man and one woman. And in Matthew 15 Jesus states that ALL sexual acts (hetero included) committed outside of marriage defiles a human being. Case in point, the Gay pride parades perfectly exemplifies the defilement of a human being. There’s a reason why Jesus is hated in the world. Because He made us accountable to Him, not to the world or some social construct society has created. We are not here to appease or get along with the world. We are here to obey the commandments of God, whether we agree with them or not. True wisdom comes from obedience, not intellect. What you are essentially saying is that boys and girls don’t need moms and dads – that moms and dads are irrelevant. Gender becomes pointless when government adopts same-sex marriage. It creates a genderless relationship out of a very gender-specific relationship. It says that it doesn’t matter and that two moms or two dads are absolutely equivalent to a mom and a dad. Simply put, if anything is marriage, then everything is marriage. And if everything is marriage, then nothing is marriage at all. Also, if you truly understood the militant homosexual’s agenda, it’s not about equality; it’s about the destruction of the institution of marriage itself, which is the bedrock of a stable and prosperous society. Research it if you don’t believe me. I completely disagree with your assessment, and I believe God would, too.

    • Preston Lambert

      Very well said Pete!!!

    • Toni J Chambers

      This is very poorly written and thought out. Of course anyone being in public should understand they have some responsibility to not expose others to things that shouldnot be seen in public. Gay Lesbian at Pride oor anywhere where you are able to be observed by others. Its good sense, it has nothing to do with gay/straight bi trans or anything other than the type of human being you are.

      To say well its gays/lesbians/bi/trans or whatever that do this so I have to be sure my son/daughter etc are aware we cant go there because hats what `they` do is teaching your children to judge everyone by a few. Give your children enough credit to be able to do better than you are.

      Also you state throughout your articles gay this gay that then later you add in lesbian. This is the worst thing I see is people speak of `gay` people in one mention, but its obvious they mean `gay men` just as the picture shows only men. And later in the article the author actually creates a distinction by adressing `gay` and lesbian. This only furthers confuses if the author meant to include anyone other than `gay men` in previous reference to ~gay`.

      Basically this is an article saying, gays or too disgusting for me to let my children see. So teach your children to assume everyone at their worst and to judge people by the `group` or lable you choose, but personally I would give some thought to teaching my children to not be judgemental or biased but thats not to say to lean to avoid unsavory situations in public or not.

      To say you cant take your children anymore may suggest you lacking in some parental skills to allow your children to develope their own sensibilities and values, and be prepared for situations in liife rather than to hide.

      Your response seems to be saying, they are out to get us and destroy our way of life. They dont need rights in our society the bible says it.

  15. EXCELLENT column! I’ve also raised my sons to be accepting of everyone. Several years ago, my good friend found the love of his life in Chicago and decided to move there to be with his partner. My oldest son had a nice truck at the time and offered to pull a trailer up with his belongings. My younger son and I rode along for the 5 hour trip. After unloading the trailer, we stayed with the ‘guys’ and had one of the best weekends with them. My sons have both gone out of their way to protect some of their gay friends from discrimination. One evening, we were in line to get into a club when one of the ‘locals’ picked up on the fact one of the guys was gay and began harassing him. My son and his friends were military at the time. We all took a peaceful stand against this guy but WE were actually told to leave. So we took our friend to a local gay bar and all had the best evening and enjoyed the company of some very nice and friendly guys.

    I have to agree, there are some who try to push the envelope and make it very uncomfortable in public around ‘straight’ people and their families. Tone it down! Save the antics for home and let us all respect one another!

  16. “Yay though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil.”
    Which encourages me to tread anywhere in order to share the message of our Lord, Christ Jesus.
    …But let us also be clear. Homosexuality is evil; It is written as “an abomination to God.”
    However, it is the Christian’s charge to be a representative of Christ to those whose eyes and ears have not been pierced by the Word of God.
    It is good that you would venture into the mission field and evangelize (however you’re called to) to be a witness of Christ, but the Bible is specific on befriending practicing homosexuals (and sexually immoral for that matter) and claiming to be Christian.
    1 Corinthians 5 tells you, as a Christian, how to handle this: “But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.”
    ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭5:11‬ ‭NIV‬‬
    The principle of “do not judge” falls flat here. In certain cases of Christians falling “astray”, a “gentle rebuke” is prescribed. However, for the sexually immoral, also claiming to be Christian… stay clear!

  17. “If being gay is a sin, that’s between them and God.”

    Paul had a different opinion.

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