I have always supported the gay community. As a Christian conservative, I have repeatedly encountered like-minded people that balk at my acceptance of homosexuality.
If being gay is a sin, that’s between them and God. It has nothing to do with me, just like people that succumb to infidelity, lying, greed, and divorce have no impact on my life. It’s not my place to judge.
In regards to true “Ronald Reagan Republicanism,” I’m all about less government in our lives. The government should have no say in what people do in the bedroom or who they get married to. Straight people get married to crappy people all the time and nobody seems to have a problem with that. If my male neighbors who are blissfully in love want to get tax write-offs because they’ve been living together for five years; let them.
Though I recognize this won’t be wildly popular amongst my conservative readers, the truth is, I have actually supported the gay community for quite some time. Before I was particularly religious, my stance on homosexuality and gay marriage is pretty much what it is now: so long as you have found peace with yourself and you aren’t hurting anyone else, I fully support you.
Every year, I have supported and embraced the gay community by going to Gay Pride. I can’t remember a year I haven’t attended. But I can’t take my son and that makes me sad.
I can’t take my son because Pride festival always ends up being overtly sexual and crude. Inevitably, I always go into it with good spirits and leave feeling disgruntled at how vulgar and demoralizing it can be. Gay pride can be beautifully symbolic and a display of the fortitude of the human spirit, rising up in the face of adversity. The energy is a force to be reckoned with and you feel a true sense of what human strength and fortitude are capable of.
But you can also feel dirty. The gay community rarely is shy about being true to themselves, which is beautiful in theory but kind of gross in practice. On countless occasions, I have witnessed things I simply have no desire to see and CERTAINLY can’t expose my son to. And that frustrates me because I think the people that have sacrificed so much in the plight of acceptance and respect have sacrificed too much to turn this particular event into a sex-show.
If the gay community wants to be taken seriously and have others accept their rights to marriage and adoption than (perhaps) leave the bedroom stuff at home?
Look, I get it. Gay Pride isn’t for straight people. They aren’t putting on a festival to make straight people and their kids feel more comfortable. It isn’t about us.
But, when you are fighting for respect and rights, it’s kind of ridiculous to bring sex into the equation. You can’t simultaneously demand that the rest of society not care about what you are doing in the bedroom, then bring it to the forefront of one of the biggest holidays recognizing gay rights. I don’t want to see ANYONE doing vulgar acts of sexuality – straight or gay. You are in public. You are at an event to celebrate all you have accomplished and everything your community had fought for. You have tirelessly fought for people to take you seriously; not judge you by what you do under the covers but in the community. ACT LIKE IT.
My son will be raised to learn to love and accept ALL human beings. He will learn that it is not our right to cast judgment, as we are not absolved of sin ourselves. He will learn that there are amazing gays and lesbians, as they are people just trying to carve out happy lives where they feel safe and loved. Not unlike the rest of us.
Unfortunately, until the gay community decides that a public event like Gay Pride probably shouldn’t involve overtly sexual and indecent acts, my son nor I won’t be able to attend. While the gay community owes my family nor anyone else’s family any leeway, I DO believe it would benefit everyone to make these festivals more kid-friendly.
After all, our youth is the future. It may be noteworthy and beneficial to stop stigmatizing homosexuality as strictly a sexual thing. If you don’t make it about sex, it won’t be. But if you do… don’t be upset when outsiders do, as well.