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Teen Girls Are Showing Much More Than Their Pearly Whites

If you ask the Liberals, they will say teen girls being scantily dressed in school is appropriate. Even when wearing skin tight yoga pants and too-short shorts to public school, libs claim parents or teachers who object to girls who want to show what their momma gave them, were “shamed” when asked to wear clothing styles according to their school policy.

Shamed for what—showing way too much skin at an age where they shouldn’t be?  Good for those teachers who make these students follow the rules!

Just like it was when we were teens, your children may feel pressure from their friends, non-friend peers, and the media — to follow the current trends and wear fashionable clothes.

Some girls feel confident if they receive attention for the way they dress. Sure, it’s nice to be noticed. Often girls even dress to impress other girls, maybe even more than guys.  But for many young teenage girls, it’s even more important to fit in.  Many young women feel it is social suicide to try to stick out in the crowd or wear something no one else is wearing.  So if all the girls are dressing in short skirts and low-cut shirts, they better do it as well, they think. Sometimes the styles may be more provocative than a girl feels comfortable wearing, but due to peer pressure, she will wear it anyway.

Trends in fashion that do not fit every body size and shape can cause girls to struggle with self-esteem. Popular shops catering to only certain sizes make girls feel “less-than” because they do not have what is considered to be the ideal teen body.  Magazines geared toward teens can be some of the most prominent culprits when it comes to promoting a particular look based on a particular body type.

According to the Child Development Department at the University of Denver, teen magazines tell girls how their bodies should be rather than meeting them where they are.  For example, if your teen daughter wants to fit in with the popular cheerleaders, she may opt to ditch her old style of dress for something closer to their ideas of what constitutes fashionable clothing, or what’s being shown in popular teen magazines.

When your teen sees her favorite TV star or a perfect-looking model wearing the latest trends, this puts pressure on her to imitate the media-made ideal. Anything less than dressing like the magazine, or other media source, pictures look like may seem like a dud to your teen when it comes to what she wears.

“When we put on an item of clothing it is common for the wearer to adopt the characteristics associated with that garment,” Dr. Karen Pine, professor of psychology at the University of Hertfordshire and fashion psychologist, told Forbes.  “A lot of clothing has symbolic meaning for us, whether it’s ‘professional work attire’ or ‘relaxing weekend wear,’ so when we put it on we prime the brain to behave in ways consistent with that meaning.”

Dr. Leonard Sax MD, writing in Psychology Today, points out that more and more research shows a connection between what women (and girls) wear and their tendency to self-objectify. In other words, girls in tight or revealing clothing at school are so worried about how they look, they may have trouble concentrating in class and doing their work.

Of course, the standard rationale that many school districts give for banning skimpy clothing for girls is that it’s distracting to the boys.  And, let’s be honest, it can be.  But this new research turns that whole argument on its ear and calls into question whether motives such as self-entitlement and freedom from misogynistic norms are valid reasons to change school dress codes, which many are already doing.

We do need to teach our kids that what we wear and how we behave — either physically, verbally or through our expression of personal style — does affect other people. And while we shouldn’t feel punished for it, it should matter to us.

This goes for adults, too, and it’s why merely telling our kids what they can and can’t wear isn’t enough. It goes way deeper into issues of human dignity and respect — for others and ourselves.

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About Katherine Rez

For many years Karen spent her much of her time journaling for fun, reading books, and writing several short stories for adults, and children. She eventually found herself in a career writing high-level processes and procedures for corporate and startup businesses. Combined with her love of health, American values, and family, she now writes for a variety of websites from health and entertainment, to news and politically driven websites.

18 comments

  1. I love how these CONSERVATIVES blame everything on the EVIL, DEMON LIBERALS. It is a convenient way for CONSERVATIVES to try to escape any blame for the social problems their MORONIC, HEARTLESS agenda has caused for the UNITED STATES of AMERICA! Case in point, their ORANGE ,MANIAC PRESIDENT who stated that he, “just grabs women by their p*ssies” and “pays to have sex with porn stars while his wife is in the hospital giving birth to their son!

    • HEAR!HEAR! Precisely, da right wing morons should get better educated instead of believing n a book written by perverted Cons…. the bible, god, jesus christ, r nothing but Aesop’s fables. f U r catholic, how can U even agree what U believe n ….like priests having kids running around not knowing who they r….WHO created all this B.S. the left, I don’t think so…CORRUPT LIARS(DA RIGHT)

    • So true!!! And courageous to say the things you said.

    • Basic liberal propaganda. Read the transcript. Listen to the tape. he never said that he did it. He said they let you grab them by the ….. Never said that he did it.
      Would you rather he cut them off like a culture that has invaded here does, both acts allegedly following their god’s commands. That culture also takes sex slaves and rapes those not of its group with impunity nd no feelings of guilt while following their so called religious mandate. Groups groom children for rape in Europe and even in the USA.
      Perspective.
      I don’t believe that you approve of rape.
      Liberals and those not liberals agree on many things. The narrative is perception managed to divide and conquer.
      Children should be taught more self control. they need to understand the value of themselves and their body. they need not end up on the carousel and never find personal value and worth. Concentrating on the one aspect of their personality will be fine when they are older, or, like in the past, when some girls changed the moment they were out of the school setting.

  2. Well – they show more – People WILL take advantage of it…..

  3. I have to agree with this post. I think this just doesn’t apply to girls but boys as well. Being a part of a group
    and fitting in keeps a child from being bullied.
    Unfortunately that sometimes requires dressing a
    certain way to not be criticized by your peers.
    Although parents can object to this thinking; it won’t
    make your child less likely to stop dressing that way
    and could have the opposite effect as a form of rebellion.

    Some schools insist on a dress code to keep this thinking
    in check. However; not all schools implement it. Some
    parents argue that it doesn’t allow for self expression
    in a fashion sense of style and some are okay with it
    since it keeps the playing field uniform.

  4. Erin Tighe Henley

    I consider myself LIBERAL and have worked in education for 20 plus years. I feel it’s very inappropriate for females and males (jeans that don’t cover their derrières), to be scantily dressed! Certain dress codes are important for schools to enforce. You make good points and reference Dr Sax, whom I’ve read but are the labels (conservative and liberal) really necessary? Aren’t we getting tired of divisive dialogue!

  5. Well written article. Its sad how many young ladies have allowed themselves to be objectified and sexualized in todays world. I see some young ladies waiting for the school bus in the morning wearing so little that I can’t help but think how in the world does a father let his daughters leave home dressed like that.

    Also, as a former young man, I can tell you that it is definitely distracting to be in a class full of scantily clad girls.

  6. I totally agree with this article. Social society makes almost anything exceptable anymore. The media promotes a lot of it. I wish there was something to that could be done to control it. They are taking our privalages of being able to live free supported by the Constitution & using it for things that was never intended by our forefathers. Morals & integrity have totally went out the window per say.

    • keep voting for the corrupt right and da country will go where the right want the country to go….HELLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????

  7. Nothing says respect me more than dressing like a ———?

  8. While I very much agree with the premise of this article, that teenagers tend to wear provocative and revealing clothes to school and thereby may send the wrong message about their integrity, I have to take issue with this as a conservative versus liberal political stance of parents. No one wants their child to be put in jeopardy of bullying, being ostracized or at the worst being viewed a a target, whether they happen to vote for Democrats or Republicans. While I am very liberal, I also very much approve of the idea of uniform clothes for school (as in Puerto Rico or many European countries.) By the way, i also feel strongly that every child born a citizen of the United States should be required to spend two years of their lives in National Service, if for nothing more than to recognize the value of the country they live in.

  9. I’m a “Lib” and I don’t approve of sexualizing young girls. Sorry to complicate your simplistic understanding of liberalism, the world, etc. Not everything can be reduced to simplistic categories. The REAL world in nuanced, (look it up later), and grey is often more common than either black or white.

  10. Problem w? redneck BIBLEPUNCHING CONServatives views r hat their outdated corrupt ways r so hypocritical it”s pathetic> Following the wAYS and policies of mafia “don” n a president who is just da opposite of what the clueless idiots of the right preach>>>>WARS< RIOTS< LIESS>. or is this moron building a U.S.S.R.(UNITED STATES SINISTER REPUBLIC…..

  11. This topic needs to be discussed, but only a sense of decency will cause someone to choose to dress appropriately. May I ask why the author chose to illustrate the article with a provocatively posed photo of young women in their school clothes?

  12. Stop the Liberal/Conservative labels. Stop being divisive.

  13. I worked in the public schools for 15 years and the true stories I could tell would sound like an episode of Jerry Springer. But, the dress code is easy to address as long as administration is consistent and firm. Most everywhere has a dress code that is enforced. These students and sometimes parents need to be reminded that school is their job. Few workplaces allow inappropriate dress. Examples – enter a courthouse as citizen or employee in shorts or a bikini (nope), wear a 3 piece suit as a life guard. All businesses have a right and responsibility to have and enforce a public and employee dress code for safety and to facilitate business. Schools are no different. There responsibility is to educate, not to facilitate relationships outside of teamwork. Just like a job. Being distracted by inappropriate dress by boys or girls goes against why students are sent to school by both their parents and society. Allowing body parts to be freely exposed gives the wrong message of their job in school.

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